A Sexy Question…

It’s Wednesday, which also means it is your favorite topic of the week–He Said/She Said. I wanted to have a brand spankin’ new post for you today, but I am feeling a bit under-the-weather and thus, I opted to sleep when I should have been writing. C’est la vie.

Instead, here is a post from the archives that you most likely haven’t seen called: Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Go on, click the link and keep reading. It gets really interesting. I promise.

Be back next Wednesday too, when I will start a two-part series asking Why Do Men and Women Cheat? Until then…

Date for Jesus?

It’s Wednesday and that must mean it is time for another installment of He Said/She Said. Today, I am talking about a well-known  phenomena in the Christian dating world.

For some it is taboo. For others it is no big deal. We all have our own opinion about the subject.

You know the couple: one person is a believer, the other is not. One attends church, the other not so much. Dating ensues and some eyebrows are raised. Okay, so let’s get to it–missionary dating. You know you wanna talk about it.

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Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Okay, I know this is a bit of a racy topic but it truly came about organically. I was brainstorming ideas for He Said/She Said with my husband one night. I threw this idea out, “Who enjoys sex more?”

Jonathan answered, “Well that’s an easy one.”

“Oh really?” I asked “You would say ‘men’ huh?”

“Yeah, men.”

“I disagree,” I explained. “I think men want sex more. They might even need sex more but I don’t think they necessarily enjoy sex more.”

He was quiet for a second.

“Huh.” He said and nodded his head.

Settled. I won.

So now onto you… Shall I try and convince you of my reasoning? Continue reading Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It

Having sex in marriage is important. Necessary. Crucial.

Women need sex to feel emotionally connected. Men need sex to feel loved and desirable.

But as most married women will tell you, marriage sure slows down the frequency of sex and sexual mood. Whether it be long work days, stress, children, or other daily distraction–a woman’s sexual impulse can be sucked right out.

All too often in marriage, women find themselves saying “no” to sex much more than “yes.” There is even the mythical male who turns down sex with his wife… a very rare breed, indeed.

I have heard it said before that women should just go ahead and have sex, even when they don’t feel like it. I agree with that sentiment and here’s why: Continue reading Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It

How to (Really) Lose a Guy in 10 Days

How to Lose a Guy

The last few weeks of He Said/She Said Wednesdays have dealt primarily with marriage and sex. So today, I wanted to write about an ancient art form–a relic–almost entirely lost in today’s culture: Dating.

You know the mediocre, albeit addicting to women, movie How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days? Well, today’s post is How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, the Christian version. Next week will be part 2, How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days.

Whether you are male or female, this post is for you. Ladies, are you wanting to find the right guy to date and then keep him interested? Then read on. Fellas, are you tired of women behaving like a neurotic, unpredictable, Cybil? Then read on. Are you married, but wanting to delight in your escape from the dating scene? Then read on. There is something for everyone. Continue reading How to (Really) Lose a Guy in 10 Days

Your Husband is NOT a Pervert, Part 2: Top 3 Ways to Help Her Understand

This is a guest post from none other than my hubster, Jonathan, in follow-up to last week’s first-parter. It’s a doozy.

Well I’m glad to know that my wife doesn’t think I’m a pervert. I would’ve guessed that, but it’s always good to have her own written words to point back to in our future discussions about sex. Ah, the joys of a blogging wife.

But what about you poor fellas out there that don’t have my same fortune? You men out there with wives who think you’re just a plain sick-o that thinks about sex “all the time” and happens to be “in the mood” at the absolute worst times. Or perhaps you have a wife that gets the general gist, but could still use some coaching on what you want in the bedroom. This one’s for you, gentlemen.

Your mission, whether you choose to accept it or not, is to help your wife understand your sexual needs and wants. Easier said than done, right? Well, let’s brainstorm, guys (and ladies, we’ll even let you listen in and provide your thoughts, too)…

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Sex: Good, Clean Fun

Sex: Good Clean Fun

It’s He Said/She Said Wednesday again, which means it’s time to talk about two of my favorite subjects: men and women. Today, though, is going to get a little saucy, as I am tackling the issue of sex.

The Church and sex have a long and checkered past. Either the Church is silent on the subject, or it’s all too vocal. But how do individual Christians deal with issue of sex?

We believers are not known for being sexy people. We are known for being a whole lot of other things before being sexy. But why not sexy? The Lord, in His goodness, created sex, after all. He even created it for enjoyment and pleasure. So are married believers actually enjoying sex? Or are they perhaps stilted in the bedroom by the negative connotations that the Church, and sometimes the world, attaches to the word “sex”?

Sex is supposed to be fun–so is it? Are you enjoying good old fashioned sex the way God designed it? Continue reading Sex: Good, Clean Fun

Women in Minstry, Part 1 of 3

Women in Ministry Part 1 of 3

The role of women in ministry within the church can be a touchy subject. People start asking questions like, “Can women teach men?” or “Can women be head pastors?” To be honest , I never spent too much time thinking abut it. I knew what I felt about the subject, but had never gone beyond that. I hadn’t  examined the scriptures, for example, or prayed to see where perhaps God was leading me on the subject. Until recently…

I am currently enrolled in a Women in Leadership Development course (that’s right, it’s W.I.L.D.). It is 2 year program designed to encourage, train, and raise up female Christian leaders. A few weeks ago we  heard a lecture on “women in ministry”. I realized then, how much of a divisive issue this truly is.  Today’s post is part one of a three part series, discussing women and their role in ministry. Since today is Wednesday–and that means it is He Said/She Said day, where I write about all things related to men, women, or both–I thought I’d talk about this somewhat controversial issue… cause that’s how I roll… Continue reading Women in Minstry, Part 1 of 3

Is it Okay to Have Rules in Marriage?

In Your Marriage, You Would Never...

Ah, marriage. I love it. I love everything about it. I love the companionship, the company, the camaraderie. I even love the fact that I end up spending so much time with someone, which for an introvert like me can be difficult.

God knew what He was doing when He created marriage. He knew the needs we hold and the desires we keep. He designed men and women to be in partnership.

I realized quickly within marriage, though, that it was necessary to have guidelines and boundaries in place, both for the unspoken and the obvious. Jonathan and I talk often about our expectations for marriage and we check in with one another to see how we are doing as spouses. There are certain things we have agreed upon through our conversations that we will never do nor allow to happen within our marriage. Do you have guidelines like that, whether you are married or not? Things you and your spouse have committed to keeping in or keeping out of your marriage?

Need some inspiration? Well here are some of the things that Jonathan and I have sworn that we will never do or always do within marriage…. Continue reading Is it Okay to Have Rules in Marriage?

Don't Pick Yourself a Project

Don't Pick Yourself a Project

I love a good makeover and makeover movies are the best–Pretty Woman, Clueless, My Fair Lady (is it weird that I have a 1960s movie listed alongside a movie about a prostitute?)… you get the point. I’m a chick and, well, most chicks love a good makeover.

Before I lose the guys reading, let me ask you this… have you ever had a chick try and make you over? I’m sure you have. You see, women do so many times unknowingly. We simply see a “project” and think to ourselves… “Oh he’d be so cute with a haircut and new shirt… oh, and maybe a tan and some Crest Whitestrips.”

But, why are women so prone to trying to makeover a man?

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