Comments for Modern Reject http://modernreject.com Nicole Cottrell: Writer, Speaker, Button-pusher Thu, 17 May 2012 19:22:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It by Andi http://modernreject.com/2010/12/have-sex-even-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-8109 Andi Thu, 17 May 2012 19:22:34 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249089588#comment-8109 I disagree. Sex is a primitive biological need which only is fueled by the evolutionary desire to procreate, forming replacement homo sapiens. One needs food, water, shelter and clothing (warmth, if not clothing). Sex shouldn't be used as a bargaining tool; shouldn't be withheld to make a point. As well, no one should say 'yes' when they aren't in the mood. My husband and I have the worst sex life possible but one thing he's said repeatedly is that he has no desire to have sexual relations with me based on my overall lack of enthusiasm, my view that it's a chore to be completed in the most efficient manner possible. Perhaps a better plan is to establish your desire for sex before marriage and put it into practise before then. Figure out a good compromise and call it a day at that. This is coming from first hand experience: figure it out before you're in too deep. My husband and I are now seven months into marriage and miserable. It is a factor that I'm asexual (see http://www.asexuality.org/ if you want to learn more about this very real [non] sexual orientation which has garnered protective laws in two states.) and he's very sexual. I didn't realise this until after we were married based on the concept of waiting until marriage. I disagree. Sex is a primitive biological need which only is fueled by the evolutionary desire to procreate, forming replacement homo sapiens. One needs food, water, shelter and clothing (warmth, if not clothing). Sex shouldn’t be used as a bargaining tool; shouldn’t be withheld to make a point. As well, no one should say ‘yes’ when they aren’t in the mood. My husband and I have the worst sex life possible but one thing he’s said repeatedly is that he has no desire to have sexual relations with me based on my overall lack of enthusiasm, my view that it’s a chore to be completed in the most efficient manner possible. Perhaps a better plan is to establish your desire for sex before marriage and put it into practise before then. Figure out a good compromise and call it a day at that. This is coming from first hand experience: figure it out before you’re in too deep. My husband and I are now seven months into marriage and miserable. It is a factor that I’m asexual (see http://www.asexuality.org/ if you want to learn more about this very real [non] sexual orientation which has garnered protective laws in two states.) and he’s very sexual. I didn’t realise this until after we were married based on the concept of waiting until marriage.

]]> Comment on Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It by CC http://modernreject.com/2010/12/have-sex-even-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/#comment-8107 CC Thu, 17 May 2012 17:02:50 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249089588#comment-8107 I've always felt the other way around. Like I'm always willing to say yes to my husband ( we just got married) but he is either too tired (I'm tired too, but I'm up for it!) or we just ate dinner (who cares?)... etc.. I'm tired of being the one looking for him... I'm about to shut down.. I’ve always felt the other way around. Like I’m always willing to say yes to my husband ( we just got married) but he is either too tired (I’m tired too, but I’m up for it!) or we just ate dinner (who cares?)… etc..

I’m tired of being the one looking for him… I’m about to shut down..

]]> Comment on Should Wives Be Hot? by Donald Borsch Jr. http://modernreject.com/2012/05/should-wives-be-hot/#comment-8106 Donald Borsch Jr. Thu, 17 May 2012 16:36:56 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249094574#comment-8106 Nicole, You really are a button-pusher, ain't you? Cheeky, cheeky woman, you. :) Nicole,

You really are a button-pusher, ain’t you? Cheeky, cheeky woman, you. :)

]]> Comment on Homosexuality and Where the Church Has Failed by Brett http://modernreject.com/2012/05/homosexuality-and-where-the-church-has-failed/#comment-8105 Brett Thu, 17 May 2012 16:20:07 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249094507#comment-8105 Thank you... I ran across this interesting post today and thought it was relevant to this discussion: http://pastorjonathanmartin.com/uncategorized/be-ye-not-askeered/ Thank you… I ran across this interesting post today and thought it was relevant to this discussion: http://pastorjonathanmartin.com/uncategorized/be-ye-not-askeered/

]]> Comment on Stay-at-Home Dads: The Future? by Chris http://modernreject.com/2011/05/stay-at-home-dads/#comment-8104 Chris Thu, 17 May 2012 13:56:55 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249091293#comment-8104 As a stay at home dad of three kids ages 7, 4, and 16 months I can honestly say that staying at home is one of the best jobs there is. Before I stayed at home I was a teacher so I had experience with small children but when my salary was just covering day care expenses it seemed like a no brainer to stay with the kids. While it is hard to juggle everything kid related and the household it holds challenges that are like any job. Sometimes your employees are disgruntled and you need to find ways to placate them. I have met many stay at home dads you are just awesome at raising their kids. The impact that dads can have on their children while staying at home is palpable. The major difficulty I have found as a house spouse is breaking into the stay at home mom's groups. Women are just much better at initiating conversation and I have found that sometimes moms are wary of a dad who stays at home. However, there are exceptions to the rule. I moved from an area where the moms of the preschool children welcomed me with open arms so it was refreshing to be a part of a group that was inclusive. I have never felt closer to my kids. Teaching can wait. I am going to enjoy every moment I have with my kids while I can. As a stay at home dad of three kids ages 7, 4, and 16 months I can honestly say that staying at home is one of the best jobs there is. Before I stayed at home I was a teacher so I had experience with small children but when my salary was just covering day care expenses it seemed like a no brainer to stay with the kids. While it is hard to juggle everything kid related and the household it holds challenges that are like any job. Sometimes your employees are disgruntled and you need to find ways to placate them. I have met many stay at home dads you are just awesome at raising their kids. The impact that dads can have on their children while staying at home is palpable. The major difficulty I have found as a house spouse is breaking into the stay at home mom’s groups. Women are just much better at initiating conversation and I have found that sometimes moms are wary of a dad who stays at home. However, there are exceptions to the rule. I moved from an area where the moms of the preschool children welcomed me with open arms so it was refreshing to be a part of a group that was inclusive. I have never felt closer to my kids. Teaching can wait. I am going to enjoy every moment I have with my kids while I can.

]]> Comment on Homosexuality and Where the Church Has Failed by Donald Borsch Jr. http://modernreject.com/2012/05/homosexuality-and-where-the-church-has-failed/#comment-8100 Donald Borsch Jr. Thu, 17 May 2012 03:59:16 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249094507#comment-8100 Vagabon, Nicole was pointing out we should first pray to see what our Father would have us do about homosexuality, instead of knee-jerk a reaction. I get that. I opined that I do not need to pray about it, so to speak, because He has been very specific about His feelings and will towards homosexuality. Since I endeavor to walk as Jesus walked, following His Father's words and guidance in all things, I will likewise accept His mindset on homosexuality. Nowhere did I infer that homosexuality was right or wrong of my own accord or intellectual grasping. My Father's position on homosexuality is my position. Take that for what you will. I simply do not pray about how to react to homosexuality, since there is no reaction needed other than what my Father's reaction is. Again, take that as you will. Thank you for your input, Vagabon! Vagabon,

Nicole was pointing out we should first pray to see what our Father would have us do about homosexuality, instead of knee-jerk a reaction. I get that. I opined that I do not need to pray about it, so to speak, because He has been very specific about His feelings and will towards homosexuality. Since I endeavor to walk as Jesus walked, following His Father’s words and guidance in all things, I will likewise accept His mindset on homosexuality.

Nowhere did I infer that homosexuality was right or wrong of my own accord or intellectual grasping. My Father’s position on homosexuality is my position. Take that for what you will. I simply do not pray about how to react to homosexuality, since there is no reaction needed other than what my Father’s reaction is. Again, take that as you will.

Thank you for your input, Vagabon!

]]> Comment on The Trouble with My Mouth by Vagabon http://modernreject.com/2010/10/the-trouble-with-my-mouth/#comment-8099 Vagabon Thu, 17 May 2012 03:38:03 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249088269#comment-8099 Ok so I know I am like 2 years late on this I was just reading older post. One small issue with your rant. You used the close html type tag To be compleatly proper in your "coding" you need or somthing like this at the start of the rant. :) (note this is in jest and I will keep reading) Ok so I know I am like 2 years late on this I was just reading older post. One small issue with your rant. You used the close html type tag To be compleatly proper in your “coding” you need or somthing like this at the start of the rant. :) (note this is in jest and I will keep reading)

]]> Comment on Homosexuality and Where the Church Has Failed by Vagabon http://modernreject.com/2012/05/homosexuality-and-where-the-church-has-failed/#comment-8098 Vagabon Thu, 17 May 2012 02:45:49 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249094507#comment-8098 Donald Borsch I think that you are missing the point, the point is as I read understand it is not if homosexuality is wrong or right. The scriptures tell us it is wrong. But that we react differently towards this particular sin than to other sins and should use prayer and the Holy Spirit to guide us how we are supposed to respond to it. Donald Borsch
I think that you are missing the point, the point is as I read understand it is not if homosexuality is wrong or right. The scriptures tell us it is wrong. But that we react differently towards this particular sin than to other sins and should use prayer and the Holy Spirit to guide us how we are supposed to respond to it.

]]> Comment on Stay-at-Home Dads: The Future? by Eric Raymond http://modernreject.com/2011/05/stay-at-home-dads/#comment-8097 Eric Raymond Thu, 17 May 2012 01:40:41 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249091293#comment-8097 I'm a SAHD and have been doing so for the last couple of years. I think we probably will never be the majority but the stats show that we are increasing in numbers. I think the biggest advantage of Stay at Home Dads is that as our children grow up our sons now have another option, SAHD. Instead of just having to work your whole life you can actually choose to stay home and raise your kids....this is such a revolutionary idea!! MainLineDads supports any dad who wants to tackle this highly rewarding career choice! I’m a SAHD and have been doing so for the last couple of years. I think we probably will never be the majority but the stats show that we are increasing in numbers. I think the biggest advantage of Stay at Home Dads is that as our children grow up our sons now have another option, SAHD. Instead of just having to work your whole life you can actually choose to stay home and raise your kids….this is such a revolutionary idea!! MainLineDads supports any dad who wants to tackle this highly rewarding career choice!

]]> Comment on Homosexuality and Where the Church Has Failed by Donald Borsch Jr. http://modernreject.com/2012/05/homosexuality-and-where-the-church-has-failed/#comment-8096 Donald Borsch Jr. Thu, 17 May 2012 01:05:17 +0000 http://modernreject.com/?p=1249094507#comment-8096 Shoot. I realized I really didn't nail my point down. Let me try this again: I do not need to pray about homosexuality and my response to it, since it is already laid out for me as a covenant son within The Scriptures and through The Spirit. It is not an issue I can disagree with my Father about (can you imagine being a believer and disagreeing with God?...yeah, me neither) no matter what secular culture and secular emotionalism seeks to have me believe. There. Now I know I made my point. Thanks for reading! Shoot. I realized I really didn’t nail my point down. Let me try this again:

I do not need to pray about homosexuality and my response to it, since it is already laid out for me as a covenant son within The Scriptures and through The Spirit. It is not an issue I can disagree with my Father about (can you imagine being a believer and disagreeing with God?…yeah, me neither) no matter what secular culture and secular emotionalism seeks to have me believe.

There. Now I know I made my point. Thanks for reading!

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