My House or Yours

I have been a Christian for about 13 years. Just about every Sunday, I wake up, get in the car, drive to a building, to then sit in a seat, sing, tithe, and listen to a man give a sermon.

The next Sunday, repeat.

Is that church though? Is the typical Sunday morning experience the church that Jesus and His disciples envisioned for Christians?

I believe the model of the church laid out in the book of Acts is the model that God desires for us. I believe God is asking us “My House or yours? Are you wanting My design for the church or man’s design for the church?”

The house church model or organic church model, very closely resembles the Acts church and rivals the standard Sunday morning model in many way:

1. Sunday morning church is a spectator sport where you sit and watch “special” people do “special” things.House church on the other hand, is a participatory sport wherein everyone contributes, making each person important or “special.” Just as Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 12:14 “For the body does not consist of one member but of many.” Also in verse 19-20 “If all were a single member,where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.”

2. Typical church does not encourage relationship or fellowship. You enter a building, sit in a seat, and maybe have a few minutes before service and after service to connect with people. House churches are designed with relationship in mind. They incorporate fellowship into every gathering, not a few minutes here and there.

3. Some people may not like this but within a house church it is impossible to remain nameless or anonymous. My husband and I started chatting with a couple at a breakfast spot one Sunday morning. Turned out we attended the same church at the time, which was a large 7,000 person church. The wife said “Don’t you just love a church that big? You can just slip in and slip out. No one even notices if you are there or not one Sunday.” My heart fell heavy. Church is not anonymity. Church is intimacy and accountability.

4. Sunday morning church services often make you choose. For instance, would you like to attend the “traditional service at 8:00 a.m.,” the “contemporary service at 10:00 a.m.,” or the “young singles service at 6:00 p.m.,” ? I believe that the church should consist of everyone, young and old, new in the faith and the mature in the faith. House churches encourage all walks of life to be engaged in church life together. That includes singles, marrieds, families, widows, and everything in between.

5. The inclusion of all ages and walks of life within a house church coupled with the house church structure also encourages real discipleship. My husband and I are true believers in the call to disciple others just as Jesus did with His twelve. I believe nothing helps further the growth and maturity of believers like discipleship. House churches help foster discipleship thus fostering qualitative and quantitative growth.

6. House churches are by design viral,  quickly expandable, and easy to reproduce. Traditional churches are built from the ground up and then move vertically, structured with a hierarchy and leaders. House churches expand outward and move horizontally, where by every person is both participating and responsible for the outcome. This difference in direction allows for house churches to quickly and effectively multiply and fosters a sense of ownership among church members.

7. The benefit of quick multiplication is a rather obvious one: More people in a church home, faster. However there is also the added benefit of more rapidly and intentionally affecting a neighborhood or community. Since house churches can spread so quickly they can penetrate an entire neighborhood or community for Christ.

8. And what do you have when an entire community is introduced to a house church movement? True evangelism. (This concept gets me charged up). Essentially house churches say, “Don’t bring people to church…we will bring church to the people.” That I believe is God’s heart.

9. Finally, when you combine these ideas: intimacy, participation, accountability, fellowship, community, and evangelism, you are literally living life together as God called us to do so. That is the image that comes to my mind when I think of how church should be…living life together, in the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sharing in our joys, tribulations, and victories. A real family. A true representation of Christ. The blameless and spotless bride.

There is much more to say on the subject of house churches. I could go on and on. I presently attend a traditional Sunday church service, through which I am blessed, encouraged, and admonished. However, I know that the Lord is calling myself and my family to something different. I crave the closeness, community, and vitality that a house church can offer. I long to feel significant, knowing that I, along with every other person, is designed to participate within the body. I am ready for something more than a 2 hour Sunday service. I am ready for God’s House…are you?

Does the house church movement sound appealing or unappealing to you? What do you like about traditional church service? What do you dislike?

Happy Birthday: Modern Reject Turns One

Somehow, this same time last year, I was mapping out how I would start a blog. I came up with the name “Modern Reject” while enjoying some coffee-flavored gelato on date night with my hubster.

He thought it was the perfect name. I agreed. Suddenly, something I had been so resistant, too, was becoming something I was daydreaming about doing. I set to work and began writing 10 posts, so as to have a mini-collection of work on my blog come launch day.

I sent emails to all of my friends and family (including my husband’s friends and family) telling them I was about to start a blog. I prayed…a lot. And, on May 17th of 2010, Modern Reject opened its doors. The last year has been amazing, grueling, torturous, and kick-ass.

Here are my highlights from my first year of blogging…read on and celebrate with me. You are, after all, the reason for the party in the first place…. Continue reading Happy Birthday: Modern Reject Turns One

Favorite (Retro) Things

I have a bit of a soft spot for anything retro, especially items from the 1950s and 60s. My husband calls me a traditionalist.

Sure, I have a computer, a cell phone, and a Wii, but I would much prefer to travel back to the days when things were simpler. Days when design and form were as important as function and utility. When writing meant clanking a typewriter and people still read newspapers.

So, this Friday, I am sharing some of my Favorite (Retro) Things, nostalgic for the past and the ways things used to be… Continue reading Favorite (Retro) Things

If You Could Meet 3 People in Heaven

Have you ever heard someone say something along the lines of “Jesus return quickly”? Yeah, well I have and I don’t happen to agree with the sentiment. I mean, I love Jesus, but His return will mark some pretty awful events, as well.

I am not longing for heaven either. I know perhaps I should be. My mind does not often drift to heavenly things so much as temporal things. I don’t have much of an “eternal perspective” (another nice Christian-ism to add to my list).

What I am excited for, however, is getting to meet people in heaven. I cannot wait to see who’s there (although it saddens me to think of who won’t be there, as well) Here are the 3 people I am most excited to meet in heaven (besides Jesus). Then, it’s your turn… Continue reading If You Could Meet 3 People in Heaven

Go On, Ask Me Anything…

Over the last almost year, you guys have asked me lots of questions, whether it be in the comments, or via email. I have tried to answer them all as honestly as I can.

Sometimes I fear my answers have been inadequate. Sometimes I feel out of my league.

Yet, you all have given me grace and love, friendship and encouragement–and I am thankful. So, I’d like to declare today “Ask Me Anything Day”, a chance for you to ask me any question.

Want to ask about my thoughts on sex, marriage, dating? Go for it. Want to know where I stand on a particular theological doctrine? Ask me. Dying to find out how I blog 5x a week while juggling two kids, a home, and a bun in the oven? Hit me up. I am totally game. And I know you guys will no doubt have some awesome questions.

So don’t leave me hanging. Ask me and I promise to answer each of you. Who knows, your stirring and thought-provoking question could turn into my next post. (I’ll give you full credit of course).

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All That Died, All That Lives

“Easter is not a time for groping through dusty, musty tomes or tombs to disprove spontaneous generation or even to prove life eternal. It is a day to fan the ashes of dead hope, a day to banish doubts and seek the slopes where the sun is rising, to revel in the faith which transports us out of ourselves and the dead past into the vast and inviting unknown.” ~ Anonymous

This Easter, may your mind and spirit be fully aware of all that died on the cross and all that has been brought to life through the resurrection.

What are you doing this Easter? How do you celebrate? What does Easter mean to you?

Let's Keep Talking…

I am pausing on today’s He Said/She Said post, in favor of continuing the discussion from yesterday’s post on Church diversity.

The discussion taking place is an important one, with varying perspectives and experiences being shared. If you haven’t already, please comment and add your voice to the conversation. I would love to hear your thoughts.

As a reminder, too, anyone who leaves a comment on the post will be entered to win a free copy of the new book, Church Diversity–Sunday the Most Segregated Day of the Week by Scott Williams (winner to be chosen at random).

So, let’s keep talking…

Favorite (Nerd) Things Friday

Have you ever been called a nerd? I have…and I like it. I think we all have a little bit of nerd in us…the part of us that is still childlike and excitable. Our inner nerd is the reason we secretly get stoked over the things we love, like a book, or a movie, or the newest shiniest piece of electronic equipment.

Nerds are everywhere, even though people don’t like to admit that they are one. I have certainly felt like the loner-nerd, alone in the things I love. And as proof that you are not alone in your nerd-dom, I thought I’d share with you this Friday some of my own inner nerd-isms. Continue reading Favorite (Nerd) Things Friday

Favorite (Riley Saying) Things

I think my kids are two of the funniest people I know. I am constantly surprised by and snorting from their humor.

My daughter, the 4 year-old, has been amazingly funny lately. As this this third baby’s arrival gets closer and closer, I am beginning to appreciate my first two kids even more.

Every day on Twitter, I tweet a “Riley Quote of the Day.” I thought I’d share a list of some of her funniest moments with you. If you haven’t already, you can follow me on Twitter, too, and make sure you can read her hilarity each day. Let the smiling begin… Continue reading Favorite (Riley Saying) Things