5 Reasons Why Men Cheat

Today is Wednesday, my favorite day of the week because I get to talk with all of you about sex, marriage, men, and women. Woohoo!

Last week, I promised you a fascinating post asking the age old question: Why Do Men Cheat? I have a few theories, but just for fun (before we get into it), here is one answer from one of my all-time favorite movies: Continue reading 5 Reasons Why Men Cheat

A Sexy Question…

It’s Wednesday, which also means it is your favorite topic of the week–He Said/She Said. I wanted to have a brand spankin’ new post for you today, but I am feeling a bit under-the-weather and thus, I opted to sleep when I should have been writing. C’est la vie.

Instead, here is a post from the archives that you most likely haven’t seen called: Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Go on, click the link and keep reading. It gets really interesting. I promise.

Be back next Wednesday too, when I will start a two-part series asking Why Do Men and Women Cheat? Until then…

Date for Jesus?

It’s Wednesday and that must mean it is time for another installment of He Said/She Said. Today, I am talking about a well-known  phenomena in the Christian dating world.

For some it is taboo. For others it is no big deal. We all have our own opinion about the subject.

You know the couple: one person is a believer, the other is not. One attends church, the other not so much. Dating ensues and some eyebrows are raised. Okay, so let’s get to it–missionary dating. You know you wanna talk about it.

Continue reading Date for Jesus?

Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Okay, I know this is a bit of a racy topic but it truly came about organically. I was brainstorming ideas for He Said/She Said with my husband one night. I threw this idea out, “Who enjoys sex more?”

Jonathan answered, “Well that’s an easy one.”

“Oh really?” I asked “You would say ‘men’ huh?”

“Yeah, men.”

“I disagree,” I explained. “I think men want sex more. They might even need sex more but I don’t think they necessarily enjoy sex more.”

He was quiet for a second.

“Huh.” He said and nodded his head.

Settled. I won.

So now onto you… Shall I try and convince you of my reasoning? Continue reading Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It

Having sex in marriage is important. Necessary. Crucial.

Women need sex to feel emotionally connected. Men need sex to feel loved and desirable.

But as most married women will tell you, marriage sure slows down the frequency of sex and sexual mood. Whether it be long work days, stress, children, or other daily distraction–a woman’s sexual impulse can be sucked right out.

All too often in marriage, women find themselves saying “no” to sex much more than “yes.” There is even the mythical male who turns down sex with his wife… a very rare breed, indeed.

I have heard it said before that women should just go ahead and have sex, even when they don’t feel like it. I agree with that sentiment and here’s why: Continue reading Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It

Friends Don't Let Friends…

When I was in high school, I ran track. I attended a large high school and our track team was over 100 kids. One girl on the team named Crystal, pulled out in front of me in her truck while exiting the school parking lot.

There was a bumper sticker on her truck that read: Friends don’t let friends die without Jesus.

I didn’t know Jesus then. I was 16. I remember reading her bumper sticker again and again, feeling both confused and intrigued by it.

Of course now I know that friends are not responsible for another friend’s salvation, but I understand the message. It was a friend, a different girl though, who helped lead me to Christ.

I have had friendships that are healthy and joyful, to some that are toxic and cruel, to still others that are full of encouragement.

I have my own “friends don’t let friends…” list. Here are three things I would never let my friends do. Then it’s your turn. Continue reading Friends Don't Let Friends…

How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days

How to Lose a Girl

Last Wednesday I shared a post for all the ladies out there about what NOT to do in a dating relationship. The basic gist for women was–don’t be a creeper. Guys don’t like stalkers.

Today, however, I’m turning the table and writing for the fellas. Today is How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days. Guys, want to know how to win a girl over on a date? Or how to be successful and pin down a second date? I thought so.

Women are complicated, I admit, but if you avoid these dating no-nos, then you might be more successful in the dating department. Ladies, you weigh in, too, please. Help give the guys direction and pointers. The more advice the merrier. So here is what not to do… Continue reading How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days

How to (Really) Lose a Guy in 10 Days

How to Lose a Guy

The last few weeks of He Said/She Said Wednesdays have dealt primarily with marriage and sex. So today, I wanted to write about an ancient art form–a relic–almost entirely lost in today’s culture: Dating.

You know the mediocre, albeit addicting to women, movie How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days? Well, today’s post is How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, the Christian version. Next week will be part 2, How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days.

Whether you are male or female, this post is for you. Ladies, are you wanting to find the right guy to date and then keep him interested? Then read on. Fellas, are you tired of women behaving like a neurotic, unpredictable, Cybil? Then read on. Are you married, but wanting to delight in your escape from the dating scene? Then read on. There is something for everyone. Continue reading How to (Really) Lose a Guy in 10 Days

Your Husband is NOT a Pervert, Part 2: Top 3 Ways to Help Her Understand

This is a guest post from none other than my hubster, Jonathan, in follow-up to last week’s first-parter. It’s a doozy.

Well I’m glad to know that my wife doesn’t think I’m a pervert. I would’ve guessed that, but it’s always good to have her own written words to point back to in our future discussions about sex. Ah, the joys of a blogging wife.

But what about you poor fellas out there that don’t have my same fortune? You men out there with wives who think you’re just a plain sick-o that thinks about sex “all the time” and happens to be “in the mood” at the absolute worst times. Or perhaps you have a wife that gets the general gist, but could still use some coaching on what you want in the bedroom. This one’s for you, gentlemen.

Your mission, whether you choose to accept it or not, is to help your wife understand your sexual needs and wants. Easier said than done, right? Well, let’s brainstorm, guys (and ladies, we’ll even let you listen in and provide your thoughts, too)…

Continue reading Your Husband is NOT a Pervert, Part 2: Top 3 Ways to Help Her Understand

Sex: Good, Clean Fun

Sex: Good Clean Fun

It’s He Said/She Said Wednesday again, which means it’s time to talk about two of my favorite subjects: men and women. Today, though, is going to get a little saucy, as I am tackling the issue of sex.

The Church and sex have a long and checkered past. Either the Church is silent on the subject, or it’s all too vocal. But how do individual Christians deal with issue of sex?

We believers are not known for being sexy people. We are known for being a whole lot of other things before being sexy. But why not sexy? The Lord, in His goodness, created sex, after all. He even created it for enjoyment and pleasure. So are married believers actually enjoying sex? Or are they perhaps stilted in the bedroom by the negative connotations that the Church, and sometimes the world, attaches to the word “sex”?

Sex is supposed to be fun–so is it? Are you enjoying good old fashioned sex the way God designed it? Continue reading Sex: Good, Clean Fun