It’s Wednesday and that must mean it is time for another installment of He Said/She Said. Today, I am talking about a well-known phenomena in the Christian dating world.
For some it is taboo. For others it is no big deal. We all have our own opinion about the subject.
You know the couple: one person is a believer, the other is not. One attends church, the other not so much. Dating ensues and some eyebrows are raised. Okay, so let’s get to it–missionary dating. You know you wanna talk about it.
…at least, the way you are currently praying.
I know, I’m tricky. Sorry for that. I haven’t written specifically about prayer on Modern Reject before. I think it’s because when I think of prayer, I admittedly get a little sleepy. I do not find prayer to be the most exciting of topics. That alone is a problem, I admit.
In reality, however, God has chosen the system of prayer to accomplish His will through His people. That fact alone should compel us to pray more. However, praying more isn’t enough. If we want our prayers to be powerful, effective, and relevant, we have to quit praying the way we have been praying. Continue reading Why You Should Quit Praying…
I have been thinking a lot about money lately. Cash money. Bills, Benjamins, moolah…
Mostly, I think it is because following the ridiculous expense of Christmas (which I am neither condoning nor renouncing) and entering the new year, ripe with possibilities, my mind comes to thoughts of money–how much I have, or don’t have. How much I want or think I need.
I have an unhealthy relationship with money, though. I think of that expression, “easy money.” Even though that refers to making money, the issue of money has not always been “easy” for me. Money has never been my friend. We have shared a few good times, sure. Inevitably, though, I always talk bad about money behind its back and say things like… Continue reading Easy Money…?
Happy New Year (almost)! Today is the last day of the year and I can’t believe it. When 2010 started, I was so overwhelmed with excitement, more than almost any other year. I knew God had big things in store for me and my family.
I ended up starting a blog. Who knew? I celebrated my 5 year wedding anniversary. I turned 30. I fought battles. Won some and lost some.
I have so much to be thankful for this year, including all of you. I have the most rockinest readers around. I’d love to know what were some of the highlights of 2010 for you, as well as some of your low points.
Here are mine… Continue reading (My 2010) Favorite (and not so favorite) Things
I am not too fond of New Year’s Resolutions. Why would I make a list of goals, too strenuous, time-consuming, and impossible to keep? What fun is that?
I’m all for setting goals (sorta), but resolutions are just the list of things we never quite accomplish and then get down on ourselves for not completing.
When I first met my husband, however, he introduced me to a different way of starting off the New Year. You pick a word. A simple idea–one word, to focus on, meditate on, and reflect on for an entire year.
Only, be careful of the word you choose. My first time choosing a word, I made a huge mistake…
Okay, I know this is a bit of a racy topic but it truly came about organically. I was brainstorming ideas for He Said/She Said with my husband one night. I threw this idea out, “Who enjoys sex more?”
Jonathan answered, “Well that’s an easy one.”
“Oh really?” I asked “You would say ‘men’ huh?”
“Yeah, men.”
“I disagree,” I explained. “I think men want sex more. They might even need sex more but I don’t think they necessarily enjoy sex more.”
He was quiet for a second.
“Huh.” He said and nodded his head.
Settled. I won.
So now onto you… Shall I try and convince you of my reasoning? Continue reading Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?
Having sex in marriage is important. Necessary. Crucial.
Women need sex to feel emotionally connected. Men need sex to feel loved and desirable.
But as most married women will tell you, marriage sure slows down the frequency of sex and sexual mood. Whether it be long work days, stress, children, or other daily distraction–a woman’s sexual impulse can be sucked right out.
All too often in marriage, women find themselves saying “no” to sex much more than “yes.” There is even the mythical male who turns down sex with his wife… a very rare breed, indeed.
I have heard it said before that women should just go ahead and have sex, even when they don’t feel like it. I agree with that sentiment and here’s why: Continue reading Have Sex…Even When You Don't Feel Like It
When I was in high school, I ran track. I attended a large high school and our track team was over 100 kids. One girl on the team named Crystal, pulled out in front of me in her truck while exiting the school parking lot.
There was a bumper sticker on her truck that read: Friends don’t let friends die without Jesus.
I didn’t know Jesus then. I was 16. I remember reading her bumper sticker again and again, feeling both confused and intrigued by it.
Of course now I know that friends are not responsible for another friend’s salvation, but I understand the message. It was a friend, a different girl though, who helped lead me to Christ.
I have had friendships that are healthy and joyful, to some that are toxic and cruel, to still others that are full of encouragement.
I have my own “friends don’t let friends…” list. Here are three things I would never let my friends do. Then it’s your turn. Continue reading Friends Don't Let Friends…
Hello! I hope you all had a joyful and fun-filled Christmas. I sure did, and I am still tired from the last few days.
Last Thursday on Modern Reject, I wrote a piece asking if there really is a war on Christmas. I linked to an atheist blog and the comments that followed were divisive, to say the least.
The comments on the post ranged from discussion of the question I originally posed, to what atheists really believe, to the historical evidence of Jesus’ existence. I was tired by the end of it all, and so were others, I’m sure.
The questions and issued raised got me thinking, though. Why is it that so many people–atheists included–have such skewed perceptions of Christians? One commenter, for instance, compared me to an Islamic-terrorists because I said that I view myself as Christian first before viewing myself as an American. He called that “dangerous.”
I have felt defeated in the past when listening to people describe Christians. They call them brainwashed, delusional, or flat out stupid for believing in God.
But what is it about Christians that others find so insulting, so unnerving, and even dangerous? Why do some people think Christians are the very worst? Are you one of the very worst Christians? Continue reading The Very Worst Christians
We have heard the phrase “war on Christmas” for the last few years. Conservatives and Evangelical Christians have been shouting from the rooftops about the poor baby Jesus and His nativity scene being pulled down and packed away in little towns and cities across America.
We have heard the December greeting shift from the traditional greeting of “Merry Christmas” to the less religious, more universal “Happy Holidays.” Less Jesus and more consumerism… the “new holidays.”
But does all of this mean there is actually a war on Christmas? Has someone–anyone–systematically set out to wage war on Christmas, or has something else happened entirely? Continue reading Is There Really a War on Christmas?
